This article continues the discussion of forgiveness to destroy which is the ego’s version of judgmental correction as forgiveness. In the ego version, it is all about using “nice” and “necessary” forgiveness as a kindness by seeing any and all error in yourself and a brother. You get these errors corrected (judged) as they’re sins from the perceived (judged) separation from God. That’s what makes it “necessary” and “nice” forgiveness. It is supposed to be part of your salvation from sin which is considered “kind” by the ego.
Necessary, nice, need, lack and fake kindness are the errors seen and used in fulfillment of forgiveness to destroy. They choose everything but Love. Like the first aspect where the ego right mind says, “I’m better than you,” all of forgiveness to destroy is totally based in seeing and judging any error. Remember that judgment is to make a decision and come to david hoffmeister free audios a conclusion; and so using the ego judgment to forgive produces judgmental results which destroy. It is considered destruction because the projected judgments “destroy” (hide) perception of who you and your brother really are (Love).
All judgments, including those of the ego right mind, must be relinquished for true correction of the mind (forgiveness). ACIM does not compromise that Love is the Truth and that no error has occurred. If no error has occurred, then no one has done anything and so there is nothing to judge. We have all simply listened to the ego and can stop doing so at any time.
I’m The Same As You
In ACIM, this aspect is still very heavy in separation even though it claims to be the same as another. Ego does not mean Sameness (Love). What the ego actually means is sameness in error.
Criteria: The ego’s thinking is that you are having the same experience as another even though slightly different in time and space. Seeing the same errors from experience, and for the sake of being “kind” you will forgive wrong-doer(s) because that’s just how things are in this world and it’s “necessary” to forgive to move on.
The further problem is that since the ego is involved, if you try to move on, the other will abandon or attack you as the ego is threatened. Also, should you sit in misery too long feeling sorry for yourself, you risk being attacked by the ego who judges that as further error. Please understand, both you and your sameness friend are seeing “same” errors from experiences. The wrongdoer and sameness friend are judging “same” errors in you both. The seeing of same error is all that is being seen (judged).
Remember that the ego attacks to defend and protect its position that the chosen truth is true. Seeing any error requires correction of that error, according to ego, which is forgiveness to destroy. It knows no other way.
We all have forgiveness lessons (correction of the mind) associated with people, places and things as all are portions of the fragmented mind. However, no one has committed an error because behind the fragments, we are all One (Love). The key is to practice correction of the mind (forgiveness) and relinquish the judgment of any error no matter what the situation. As long as you see something as an error, you stay stuck in forgiveness to destroy.
In ACIM, this aspect is not quite as heavy in separation; but this way of seeing error still judges error (decides and assigns error the meaning of being real). Judgment of any error is separation and a decision to deny who you are: Love. This aspect is very covert and can easily be perceived as being a saint if you don’t acknowledge what the ego mind is really doing.
Criteria: The ego loves victims and victimizers because it hides judgments. If you attack a martyr (victimizer to victim), the response is a “kind” smile as they deny the pain they are feeling. They might say nothing; but they might also respond as a victim.
They’ve completely bought into the idea that they must forgive all sins (necessary forgiveness). In other words, they have to be “nice” to your attack as their kind corrective forgiveness so they’re not committing the same sin. “Nice” can mean playing victim or “better than you.” It means fake kindness because it doesn’t choose Love.
Some martyrs even think they deserve your attack as punishment for their own sins. For others, the fear of punishment is so great they cannot do anything more than smile and hope you’ll go away.
The further problem since ego is involved shows itself in the covert, devious and kill or be killed thought system of the ego. Behind the calm exterior, the martyr’s mind is a tirade of angry judgments on your sins. Up front they’re one way; but in their thoughts, they want to kill you. Ego is forgiving to destroy, i.e., it is attacking back to defend its truth of sin in need of correction before the punishment of death. This destroys (hides) true perception.
All attack is a call for love in the Course. The only way to not perceive attack is to not see error in yourself or a brother. Truth (Love) cannot conceive of attacking itself. That is insanity.